The Control Freak Bride. A Users Guide.

We all know a Control Freak Bride (CFB). She’s the girl who has been planning her wedding well before the actual engagement and would have left her boyfriend helpful hints on the fridge about the ring she wanted. (N.B : Minimum 1 carat, D colour, VVS, princess cut solitaire.) She updates her Facebook status 12 times a day, keeping everyone in the loop on the decision-making process for the bridesmaid dresses, the menus for the reception, and the font for the invitations. This is the day she has dreamt of all her life so she wants it to be just perfect, which means she wants to do it all herself.

But, before you tweet the world about your Bridezilla mate or delete her from Facebook, know that with a few simple steps you can tame the CFB. Her fiancée will be thankful and she’ll thank you later too when you have helped her survive the experience with her hair intact. Perfect for a chignon (low, slightly on the side and secured with a diamante clasp).

Hear her out
Tell her you understand what a stressful time it must be for her. Volunteer your support and a friendly ear to relieve some of the worry. If you are married, tell her what worked for you.

Have an intervention
Despite the invitations being written in calligraphy and laminated, don’t be deterred by the initial declines for assistance. Even if she says she can do it all herself, she’ll secretly be glad for the help. Persevere with your offers of assistance, no matter how small. Alleviate the pressure by offering to transport flowers from the church to the wedding, deliver items to the venue or confirm the hair and make-up appointments. The detail of a wedding can be overwhelming and she’ll start to relax once it starts to fall into place.

Hire some help
A wedding planner or assistant such as the services provided by Girl Friday Weddings ( can ease the stress load during the planning or the day itself. A wedding is such a special occasion and you need to encourage your friend to slow down so she can enjoy it.

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