Are you in a serious relationship and about to move in together or tie the knot? Then listen up. According to a British law firm, you should consider taking their ‘Compatability Quiz’ before you take the plunge.
The quiz, designed by law firm Bross Bennett, focuses on the key areas of finance, fanily ties, children, religion and leisure time.
Partner Ruth Bross likened the situation to an employer doing considerable research before taking on a new hire. “A couple should not embark on a lifelong commitment without doing their research,” he says.
“Successful relationships are built on honesty. Deceit on any scale is a betrayal of that basic principle; there is little point in building a future with someone if they are not prepared to be truthful. No-one who is truly committed to a relationship would ever mind making the full and frank disclosure that is asked of them. If they do, you might like to ask yourself why."
Low and behold, here is the quiz. Let us know what you think? -
- Do you know the extent of each other's assets? How does each of you view the sharing of these assets?
- Do you have the same attitude to saving? Will one of you prioritise pension contributions while the other wants to save for a new
- Will you pool your resources into a joint account or do you want to keep finances separate? Will you contribute in proportion to your incomes, or equally?
- On debts, are you going to have to pay off your partner's debts, perhaps from what you thought was going to be the deposit on your house?
- What sort of relationship do you have with your extended family? Are they good at staying in touch? Are they local? Affectionate? Over-involved? Have you had any major fallings out?
- Do you want children? How many?
- How do you want to raise your children? What sort of values do you want to pass on?
- Do you have opposing views about the benefits of state versus private education - and should you be thinking now about buying in a catchment area for a good state school?
- Are your respective career paths compatible - is either of you going to have to make compromises? Are you prepared to?
- Will you want to give up work when you have children? What does your partner think about this?
- Can you manage financially? What about part-time working?
Roles - Traditional or modern?
- Will you expect to live along traditional lines - woman as homemaker and man as bread-winner?
- Who will organise the finances? Will household responsibilities be shared equally? Who will assume responsibility for paying bills?