The secret heartache behind Prince Harry's decision to leave royal life

Prince Harry’s quick departure from royal life has to do with the heartbreaking upbringing of his mother, a royal expert claims.

According to royal biographer Penny Junor, Prince Harry left the royal family ‘without thinking it through’ because he has ‘little understanding of what a happy family looks like’ following the breakdown of his own parent’s marriage.

She says the sad reality that Princess Diana was raised feeling ‘unloved’ by her own mother, who left when she was just six-years-old, has always affected her sons William and Harry. Especially Harry, who is 'impulsive' like his mother.

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Princess Diana’s upbringing is said to have been a large part of her marriage breakdown with Prince Charles which had a lasting impact on Harry.

"What Charles didn't know was that Diana had been badly traumatised by her parents' ugly divorce. Her mother had left home when she was six and, to her mother's great distress, custody of Diana and her siblings granted to their father," Ms Junor said.

"Diana grew up feeling unloved. Those terrible feelings blighted the rest of her life and were a significant factor in the break-up of the marriage. William and Harry, therefore, grew up with little understanding of what a happy family looks like."

She went on to say that ‘there is an element of history repeating itself’, observing the similarities between Meghan Markle’s upbringing and Princess Diana’s childhood.

She told The Mirror that the pair had no firm family foundation before entering the royal family, unlike Kate Middleton who has strong support from her parents.

Ms Junor also suggests that things between Harry and his brother Prince William were already tense before Meghan Markle was introduced to the royal family and that Harry quit the royals for the US ‘without discussing it’ to please his wife.

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She says the pair were already ‘stepping on each other’s toes’ in their charity work but when Harry met Meghan he began talking of marriage within a matter of months which concerned William who asked whether it was happening too quickly.

"It was a reasonable question and one that a loving brother was right to ask," Ms Junor says.

"Their parents had rushed into their disastrous marriage within a year of meeting and scarcely knew one another when walking up the aisle.

"But Harry, head over heels in love, and ever impulsive, wasn’t thinking rationally. He took his brother's intentions amiss."

A new book, Battle of Brothers, by royal historian Robert Lacey, also suggests that William wasn’t happy with the how quickly Meghan and Harry’s relationship grew.

The book claims William asked his uncle, Diana’s brother Earl Spencer to step in and talk to Harry about moving too quickly – a move that Harry wasn’t happy about.

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"The fraternal fissure became established," Mr Lacey writes in the book.

"There would be patch-ups and reconciliations, especially when a public show of unity was required.

"But that anger and mistrust - that distance - has lasted to the present day."

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