When was the last time you took some time out for yourself? If you’re anything like Amelia, 28, it’s probably been way to long! “A few years ago I met Rob and we became inseparable,” she explains. “It was great for a few months but eventually living out of each pockets became too much and we started fighting. I realised I’d morphed into ‘Rob’s girlfriend’ and had forgotten how to be me. Luckily we got through it, but we now know how important it is to have time apart.”
Amelia learnt a valuable relationship lesson early on – stick to each other like Paris Hilton to Doug Reinhardt and you could end up sacrificing your identity (and in Doug’s case, your dignity!)
“Solitude is one of the hardest things for people to invest in but it’s one of the most important,” says relationship counsellor and author Dr Charmaine Saunders, www.charmainesaunders.com. “Women think they’re too busy to take time out to relax but it’s not a luxury, it’s a necessity to a healthy, less stressful life.”
So how can you ensure you’re getting the right amount of YOU time? Set aside around 20 minutes a day to do something you really enjoy. Just make sure you explain to your partner what your new-found alone-time is all about so he doesn’t take the break personally. Why not suggest he go out with the boys? He’ll love you even more!
7 ways to find YOU time
:: Plant a small herb garden and take time out to tend to it.
:: Jump into a bath, pop on a mask and read a chapter of your favourite book.
:: Have a regular pedicure once a week.
:: Pick up a hobby like cake-baking, journal writing or tennis.
:: See a girly movie by yourself.
:: Walk around the block with your pet. Don’t have one? Offer to help a neighbour with theirs.