Top Tips for Talking Dirty

So, you’re fooling around one night when your partner tells you to talk dirty to them. Cue the awkward silence!

Don't panic! there’s no need to fear.

Talking dirty during intercourse can ramp up desire in an instant and help both parties reach climaxes of a new level. Here’s how to do it without feeling like a fool.

We asked sex-pert Claire Preen, author of 50 Shades of Chocolate, for her top tips on how to ease into dirty talk without looking like a fool!

Start small:

If you’re the silent type in the bedroom, the first step to talking dirty is to make any noise at all. A few well-placed groans and moans here and there will tell your partner they’re doing the right thing. Drop in an ‘oh, yes!’ and their egos (and desire!) will reach new heights.


‘God, I love it when you slam deep inside me’ is a great, relatively clean way to start talking during sex. It positively encourages your partner’s behaviour but isn’t scary. Using positivity – ‘ooh, I love it’, ‘yes, just like that’, ‘yes, harder, harder…’ – will make them feel like a hero and you’ll love seeing them reciprocate.

Be descriptive:

Describing their body parts in encouraging ways will make you and your partner feel invincible. For example, instead of saying: ‘put your penis inside me’, you could say: ‘oh yes, slide your big, hard dick deep inside my wet pussy‘.

Know what they like to hear:

Measure their tone, also. If they’re not too loud but like to say exactly what they’re doing, bit-by-bit, mirror them. If you’re fine to use slang words for your body parts, do so as the heat between you two gets hotter. Like sex, the dirty talk should build. Start with groans, lead to ‘YES!’s, encourage them to keep going and then – at the end – tell them forcefully to finish you off.

Lastly, don’t forget to show gratitude! A quick, ‘Mmm, I loved it when you… ‘ will set you up nicely for next time.

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