The Key to Mastering Self-Compassion

Our Wellbeing Expert, Sam Sargent, explains why it is so important to be mindful of the way in which we communicate with and treat ourselves.

All relationships - whether they are with our family, friends or lovers - are all sacred and require a certain amount of energy so they remain positive. One relationship we often forget is the relationship with ourselves. This is the most important, and the one from which all other relationships grow. 

Caring for other people and forgetting about our self has been at the forefront of my mind for years, and it can be seen in all areas of life.  For example, many people treat their pets better than they do themselves. 

Think about the way in which some of us treat our pets. We tell them how cute they are, pat them, and play with them, constantly saying lovely positive words of praise. We ensure they are well-fed and exercised. 

Now, think about the way in which many of us treat ourselves. We look in the mirror and judge our body, face, complexion. We sit on the couch watching TV as opposed to taking our bodies out for a walk in the fresh air. We criticize our actions and engage in negative self talk such as “how could I be so stupid?” or “what’s wrong with me?” or “my butt’s too big”. We eat frightfully unhealthy foods that offer little nutritional benefit. We overeat and place stress on our organs. 

Does this sound as strange to you as it does to me? Crazy, huh! Would you like to become more aware of the relationship that you have with yourself and identify if there are any areas that require a little improvement?

Speaking from experience, here are a few key areas that may require tweaking:

Self Talk

Become aware of your self talk. When you look in the mirror, what do you say to yourself? Do you judge and criticise your body? It's not a very nice thing to do, and neither is it very nurturing or productive. What if what you see as flaws are considered beautiful attributes by others? And why do we place so much significance on what one person or another thinks about physical attributes? Everyone is different and that’s what makes us all so uniquely beautiful.

Be Fair

Another one to watch for is being fair on yourself. Many people beat up on themselves because they think that they’re not as successful, happy or good as they should be. The reality is that we all make mistakes and have ups and downs throughout life.

Look on The Bright Side

It's a cliche, but it can often be very difficult to a lot of people - so start practicing! When you have a situation that is not working well for you, do you define it as a disaster? If so, you’re potentially blinding yourself from seeing what other information and possibilities are available. What if you asked, “how does it get any better than this?” or “what else is possible?” Questions such as these invite the universe to provide other possibilities, awarenesses and people to help you create a different outcome.

Please be mindful of what you say as every word has an energy of its own. Most of all, please remember to be gentle, kind and patient with yourself as you’re learning these new ways of thinking, doing and considering.

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