Despite not wanting to hear it, cheating isn't an outlandish concept and is quite common in today's society.
Relationship coach and founder of Corporate Cupid, Renee Brown says cheating is simply too easy these days.
"Usually, if you’re asking this question, you already suspect that you’re the victim of infidelity," she says. So, if you have a feeling your partner is being unfaithful, Renee shares some red flags you should watch out for.
Secret and obsessive phone use
Technology is great for many things, and Renee says it is certainly a tool in a cheater's arsenal.
"Noticing your partner is suddenly protective of their devices like their life depends on it, checking their phone excessively, changing or applying new passcodes, deleting their browser history and taking their phone to the bathroom are all extreme signs your partner may be hiding something," she says.
If all of a sudden you have noticed your partner changing their appearance for the better, something could be afoot.
"New hair, new cologne, new clothes, a random gym membership and healthy eating plan is usually a sign they are wanting to become more attractive," Renee tells. "They pay increasing attention to how they look, especially if your significant other looks the same around you, but significantly better for work or certain social events."
Periods where your significant other is unreachable
If your partner begins ignoring your calls and texts, Renee says it's certainly something to investigate further.
"You may hear many legitimate-sounding excuses like they were in a meeting, they were driving, they didn’t know you were trying to get in touch, their phone was off, or it went flat. If your partner is unreachable while working late or on a business trip, that’s a bad sign," she tells. "If your partners suddenly goes on business trips, or is working excessively late hours, that is also a bad sign."
Significantly less or more sex in your relationship
An increase or decrease in sexual activity with your partner can point to infedility, Renee reveals.
"Less sex occurs because your partner is focused on someone else; more sex occurs because they are trying to cover that up," she tells. "Another possible sign of cheating is that the sex you and your partner are having feels less emotionally connected. Yet another possible sign is that your partner is introducing new techniques and activities into your sex life. As much as you might enjoy that, it’s possible that they are learning new tricks outside of your relationship."
Your partner is hostile toward you and your relationship
Perhaps one of the more obvious signs your partner is being unfaithful is when they start to rationalise and justufy their behaviour by blaming you, Renee says.
"They may tell themselves that you don’t look the way you did when they married you, or you’re not adventurous enough in the bedroom, or you don’t appreciate all the wonderful things they do for you, so they deserve to have a little fun elsewhere," she tell. "Often, their internal justifications for cheating leak out, and they behave judgmentally toward you and your relationship. It’s their subconscious trying to justify their bad behaviour."
Although Renee admits some if the above things happen legitimately in relationships without any cheating, she says it still indicates something in their life, or your relationship, is wrong.
"It might not be as extreme as cheating, but there is almost certainly something that you and your significant other need to talk about," she advises. "Either way, the good news is that learning about infidelity does not automatically signal the end of your relationship. It simply means your partner has a lot of work to do if they want to restore relationship trust, make things right, and re-establish emotional and sexual intimacy. You just need to work out if you want to work through it with them or if the damage is irreparable."