Should Wives Sue Mistresses?

American NBA star Dwyane Wade's estranged wife is suing his girlfriend, Gabrielle Union, claiming that their relationship is causing their two sons emotional distress.

Siohvaughn Wade is seeking $50,000 in damages because her husband’s sexual foreplay was acted out in front of her sons causing them and her emotional and mental distress.

Bones star David Boreanaz is also in hot water as his wife is reportedly considering filing a lawsuit against his ex-mistress, too. Boreanaz confessed to the affair on May 3rd.

So is this okay? Can wives sue mistresses? Apparently, they can! In North Carolina anyway! Cynthia Shackelford, just successfully sued her husband's mistress, Anne Lundquist, for ruining her marriage, claiming alienation of affection and intentionally or recklessly causing severe emotional distress. She was awarded $US9 MILLION!!!

Mrs Shackelford, 60, said she gave up her teaching career to raise the couple's two children and support her husband, Allan, 62, in his legal career.

She insisted that they were still in love when 49-year-old college administrator Anne Lundquist came along.

"I really loved him and I really thought he loved me," she said.

North Carolina remains one of a handful of states that allow married partners to sue someone they believe is responsible for wrecking their marriage.

So do you think this is a good idea?

Greta, 29, says she would sue the pants off any woman who tried to break-up her marriage. “I think it’s a great idea,” she says. “Some women deliberately go out to break up happy marriages and they should be held responsible. Maybe a huge lawsuit like this will make them think twice!”

Hannah, 36, disagrees. “Piting yourself against another woman in court just makes the whole situation messier,” she says. “I wouldn’t want my dirty laundry aired like that. There’s something to be said for being the bigger person.”

So what do you think? Should a wife be able to sue her husband’s mistress?


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Posted by Report
You lady's saying its the mistress fault!!? You have no idea NONE AT ALL!!! I met a man who chased me for almost a year... I had a boyfriend no matter what I did to say no he did not give up! He bought me things, offered me things, even said he would give me $1500 just to go on a date with him. In the end I become single so one afternoon I agreed to see him and find out who this person was that was so hooked on catching me. I met with him we spent some time together DID NOT HAVE SEX! I went home he message me within half an hour asking when he would see me again etc he made me feel very special, as we where both busy with our jobs we didn't see each other more then once a week on weekends and stuff... Eight months into seeing him, his friend tells me he is married with children!! He is eight years older then me! Now why the hell should the mistress be sued!!? Look at your pathetic cheating husbands who go to these lengths to cheat! You women are stupid to think we intentionally go after your lying husbands so wake up please!
Posted by Erin12Report
The wife should be sueing the husband - he is the one committing adultery. 'Mistresses' are just the ones in the firing line. Responsibility for being in the relationship should fall exactly there - to the man! If this case goes to court and is awarded, goodness help us as we will have regressed to about 30 years ago.
Posted by Toni96Report
As long as they are married it IS a relationship and is none of your business whether they are happy or not. It is not your place to become a third member in their relationship whether you love him or not.
Posted by Toni96Report
Anyone knowingly commiting an act that can ruin a marriage and cause great emotional distress should be held accountable. The mistresses (or their male equivalents) feelings are not relevant. Their actions and the consequences of those actions are. They must be held responsible for what they have done even if they are not the only responsible party.
Posted by glendaReport
Do these people who chea,t not realise the emotional stress they cause their family. Yes I strongly believe you should be able to sue the mistress, they are liars and betrayers and should be held accountable for their actions.
Posted by IsabelleReport
I think yes. After all marriage is a lawful union of a man and a woman, so someone who's breaking a marriage is (in a way) breaking the law as well. I know it will not teach those people a lesson, but if they know they will be punished for it — at least will make them think twice before they go ahead and cause somebody severe emotional distress! If there's the law for persons who start the marriage, why not make one for persons who are destroying it!
Posted by Joanne22Report
I realise this won't be a popular point of view - but not all "mistresses" go out of their way to break up a marraige. I have been involved with a married man for over 23 years ( on and off ) and although I love him dearly I am also very aware that he will never be mine solely. I didn't choose to live my life this way, it's an incredibly sad and lonely life that has small moments of happiness and fulfillness when we are together. I'm aware this is frowned upon, but I assure you all - it's certainly not what I had ever thought I'd do - but often we can't help who we fall in love with. We are not all evil, wicked home wreckers. We just love the wrong men.
Posted by Toni96Report
You can fall in love with whoever you like but if he's married you have no place acting on those feelings.