Q&A with Carey Matikainen from Wife Swap Australia

Why did you choose to be a part of Wife Swap Australia?

I chose to be part of Wife Swap because I have always watched the show. My sister and I said that if it came to Australia we would apply. She chickened out but I applied. I love how each family always learns something from their experience and also has something to share.

How did you find the experience?

I found the overall Wife Swap experience great and I’m glad that we went ahead with it. At times it was challenging, difficult and not really what I expected. I was quite bored some of the time as I am used to a busy, full life.

What was the highlight of being involved on Wife Swap?

The highlight of Wife Swap was being able to have a positive impact on the other family, especially Justin, who seemed to be isolated in his family and lacking motivation and incentive. It was nice to feel appreciated and I did feel like I made a difference.

What was the hardest obstacle or challenge you faced?

The most challenging aspect of Wife Swap was not having a husband, but a wife. I found it very uncomfortable at times. The visit with the ‘dykes on bikes’ was by far the most challenging! I have never in my life felt so uncomfortable with conversation.

What one thing did you take away from your experience that you'll apply to your own family life?

The biggest thing that I took away from my experience would be that I have an even bigger appreciation of my own husband and children. I am so happy to have such hard working, amazing, loving, respectful children and husband who all really appreciate me.

I also have realised how strong I am. My confidence has grown. I realise how much I do and how well I do it! I am able to see how successful I am as a wife, mother and business woman.

What do you think you taught the other family?

I hope that the other family learnt the importance of family time. Spending time as a family, communicating, laughing and working as a family to get things done around the house. I believe that it is important to raise your children to be strong, independent adults who are capable of looking after themselves, who are honest, hardworking, motivated and reliable. To let a child do nothing is a disservice to them. I hope they realise we need to motivate and encourage our children if they need it. I hope that Justin continues his guitar lessons and work experience at the music shop. I also hope that he helps to bath the dogs and have fun cooking with his mum. I think I showed him that chores can be fun and that everyone needs to contribute to getting things done.

I believe that the family felt my love for them and my good intentions when it came to the rule change - they expected the worst but I think they were surprised that I actually did care for them and that I wasn't out to make their life difficult, but to improve things and show them a piece of how I live.


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Posted by Domenico3Report
Ehhh it is quite simple, well put Harry
Posted by Daniel213Report
Good on you Carey. You did so well in the face of such gratuitous in-your-face behavior. Your husband is a solid Christian man after my own heart. Good on you for standing by him and your family. You have a beautiful family and should be very proud of the home that you maintain. My wife runs our family household and it is the greatest service in our society to be a mother and home maker. Know that you have the love and support of traditional families across the nation.
Posted by wotzanameReport
I think Carey did an amazing job, I love the way she handle her situation. Right on!
Posted by Report
Let's not turn this comment page into a religious debate. I'm an Atheist and quite frankly I am tired of the Christian bashing I see all the time. Hold your head up high, Carey. You came across on the show as a lovely lady, someone who I would be proud to call a friend. I really enjoyed this episode.
Posted by Judge MentalReport
Tiger is guilty of exactly what he/she is accusing christians of being. "'christians' are judgemental assholes...." Is a judgemental statement. Now Tiger is either making a self hating statement as a Christian or is guilty of some glorious hypocrisy and delicious irony.

Hopefully Tiger will realise there are some Christians who are non judgemental assholes, others who are judgemental non-assholes and even ones who are non judgemental non assholes.

"...they hide behind a mask of innocence..." Seems the opposite of Christianity, where one acknowledges their personal wrongdoing and seeks redemption through repentance.

"they hide behind a mask of innocence.......whilst they are abusing other minds, bodies and lives..." I have no idea who this is specifically referring to, but Tiger if hypocrisy upsets you, it exists wherever there is a belief system. This does not negate the value of the belief, just the flaws of the supposed believer.

"why are you allowed to be a christian until you are gay?????? PRAY TELL?????? isn't that a saying that is asked by 'the lord'???".....

As far as I'm aware you don't need permission to be or not be a Christian from any human authority. Being a Christian is between you and God, not being one is your personal decision. I would advise that your sexuality and what you do with it, will be a matter of personal conscience.

In addition I believe the lady, Karin Wilkinson, identifies as being Christian yet is also involved in a same sex relationship. Clearly she is not a "judgemental asshole" by not negatively judging herself for being a Christian lesbian. (a term I'm sure she would not like as in the episode she preferred to avoid labels and to be seen as an individual, and treated as such).

I just think we need to be mindful of what we say and write, and where we think something unfair has been said we should explain why without resorting to personal insults. This is the only way we will advance as a civilisation... to be civil.
Posted by Report
You have a couple of points, I guess when you see how rich the Churches are, the fact you all go to little buildings to worship, and your statues of Jesus, I guess your no better than the pagans in ancient times with their gods, idols and altars. Maybe thats why alot have strayed. Just another point of view in the mix. I dont care what any of you lot do either way, as long as you dont cram it down my throat. Anyway, its 2012, the new age is coming, what civilisation is left after Mother Earth is through will not be worrying about a book, homosexuality etc, you will all be too busy surviving. And thats not biblical btw, thats UNIVERSAL. I wouldnt want a book written by humans to be taking credit for the Universe's work!
Posted by Report
'christians' are judgemental assholes.....they hide behind a mask of innocence.......whilst they are abusing other minds, bodies and lives........why are you allowed to be a christian until you are gay?????? PRAY TELL?????? isn't that a saying that is asked by 'the lord'???