Multi-dating: Cool or Crazy?

Here we were thinking that fun-loving single girl Kate Hudson had been rather quiet of late. Guess her absence on the social scene has been due to the fact that she’s busy juggling, not one, not two, but three men!

The 'Fool's Gold' actress is throwing herself into the single life with all the enthusiasm of a teenager at a parent-free party.

Following her split from baseball star Alex 'A-Rod' Rodriguez last year, she has reportedly been growing increasingly close to photographer and cameraman Darren Ankenman, an unnamed stockbroker and Australian golfer Adam Scott.

A source told the New York Daily News newspaper: "Kate met Darren when they were working on 'Bride Wars'. They hit it off on the set, but nothing romantic happened until after she and Alex broke up during the winter.

"She was casually seeing both Alex and Adam at the same time, but she broke things off with Adam when she got serious with 'A-Rod'. She recently got back in touch with Adam when he was in Los Angeles, and they've been seeing each other. They've always gotten along really well."

Why wouldn’t you get on with Adam? He’s cute! But if you’re wondering how Kate keeps up with them all then Mia, 25, may have some insight. She’s a self-confessed multi-dater and says that keeping your options open is the best way to find “The One”.

“I’m very honest with everyone I date,” she says. “I tell them up front that I’m seeing other people and they’re usually fine with it. I only sleep with one person at a time and as soon as I think I might really like someone, I stop dating the others.”

Mia says this open communication is the only way to keep things from getting messy and psychologist John Aiken, author of Accidentally Single: the 15 mistakes that ruin relationships and how to avoid them,, agrees.

“In the early stages it's great to date more than one person,” he says. “When you're in the dating game, you have to look at the process as one of elimination not rejection. You're simply sifting through the bad ones to get to the good one.

“There are some key rules to remember, though. You can become overwhelmed with dating too many people, and then find yourself under pressure to try and meet all the needs of increasing numbers of love interests. You may find it hard to break up with people, and therefore end up keeping them hanging on rather than moving them along.

“Try to keep things light, fun and flirtatious, and enjoy getting to know your dates without making it too serious. This is safe, keeps the potential love interests keen, and makes it less complicated. Be honest with the fact that you're dating other people and make it clear that you're not sleeping with anyone. It's great for competition, and if they're really into you then they're going to pull out all the stops!”

So what do you think? Is multi-dating cool or crazy?

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