Jessica Rowe is the poster girl for embracing and celebrating any short-comings, so what’s the key to living a carefree life?
Thankfully, Jess isn’t secretive about how she came to the point in her life where she no longer worries about what others think. Instead, she is all about focusing on what success and happiness means to her and we are so on board with that.
Being the open and honest woman she is, Jess sat down with Lifestyle to share her journey to embracing being a crap housewife and why it’s made her the happiest she’s been in years.
“I'm almost 49 and I'm the happiest I have ever been. I think part of that stems from embracing my imperfections and part of is being a proud crap housewife.
“I've never been a great cook and am a terrible housekeeper - always messy, but I've now realised that doesn't matter and I'm willing to laugh at myself because that stuff doesn't matter to me. When I embrace that vulnerability, I’m far happier because you let go of the things that don’t really matter.
“See the beauty that exists in your flaws and celebrate it.”
Let go of expectations
“I think a lot of us have all of these expectations on our shoulders to be great at every aspect of our lives. From career to parenting, the list is endless and you can tie yourself in knots trying to be the best at everything, when that isn’t necessarily going to bring you happiness.
”Think about what makes you feel good, separate to the expectations that others may project onto us.”
Define your happiness
“There are many different ways of leading a happy life and it's about being brave enough to work out what it is that makes us happy.
“I know in my teens and twenties I didn't know who I was and was too busy trying to be something I really wasn't. For me, it wasn’t until I had post-natal depression that I started to learn about my vulnerability and imperfections. I gave myself permission to be imperfect.
“Getting to this point is different for everyone and I don't think there's no one-size-fits-all way of deciding when to make changes. But I think we sometimes lose sight of tapping into our intuition and listening to the voice inside ourselves – ask yourself what really makes you happy and then listen to the answer.”
Take a new path
“I knew I needed to make a change when I went on holiday with my family and had time to slow down and truly enjoy the present moment. I discovered that enjoying each moment and being present is what makes me happy and it was on this holiday that I decided I’d leave my much-loved job. Even though it was something I loved and worked so hard for, I realised I wasn’t happy.
“You have to trust yourself when making these decisions. Your change may not be as drastic as mine and it doesn’t have to be. It could be something as simple as carving out a little bit of time for self-care in your busy week. The important thing is to realise that you can make changes in your life and nothing is forever – be brave enough to pause and ask yourself what you need.”
For more uplifting wisdom from Jessica Rowe check out her new book, Diary of a Crap Housewife RRP $29.99, Allen & Unwin