Is Flirting Cheating?

Gossip Girl star Ed Westwick has reportedly ended his two-year relationship with his co-star girlfriend Jessica Szohr after hearing rumours she was flirting up a storm with one of his best friends.

The New York Post reports that Ed threw a very “Chuck-like” tantrum and split with Jess when news trickled back to him that she was getting friendly with handsome heir Marco Minuto.

"Jessica recently celebrated her birthday in LA and was being openly affectionate and flirty with Marco," a source said. "They ended up back at the same hotel, but nobody knows what happened behind closed doors. Her flirty behaviour shocked a lot of their friends, so word quickly got back to Ed, who has been filming in Europe.

"He immediately ended their relationship on the phone, and Jessica, who denied anything happened with Marco, was so distraught that she flew to London last Friday with just the clothes on her back. She's been begging Ed to take her back, but he is deeply hurt. He can't believe that she carried on this way with one of his friends."

Whether you believe the gossip or not, the episode raises a really interesting debate … what constitutes cheating?

Thanks to modern technology, the definition of flirting has become a lot broader. We now have to include Facebook flirting and sexy text messages in the mix.

Rebecca, 28, says she would be hurt if her partner flirted with another woman in any way. “Fidelity and trust are really important in a relationship – especially when you’ve been with someone for a decent length of time,” she says. “Sending flirty text messages and Facebook messages is almost worse than flirting in person because it’s more secretive.”

But Miranda, 25, disagrees. “A bit of harmless flirting is fine – it’s what keeps us on our toes,” she says. “A sexy text, kiss or cuddle is okay as long as there is no emotional attachment.”

Everyone has their own interpretation, but American relationship expert Donna L. Franklin believes the intent of the flirtation is to get another person's attention for romantic reasons. If you're committed, that's a problem,” she says. “Even if the person doesn't respond, the fact that you send it is intent on your part to betray the relationship of the person you are with.”

So what do you think? Is flirting cheating?

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Posted by JennyReport
depends on how you flirt, if you do it in a sexual way then it's cheating. If it's just for fun, i don't think there is problem with it, especially when your personality is a fun one.
Posted by Polly MaeReport
I agree wtih Rebecca - everyone (man or woman) has flirtatious 'notes' to their conversations with people day-to-day.. On the phone, the person making your coffee in the morning.. It's what makes us feel special - and we know it makes others feel special too. But sexy texts and flirty Facebook messages are sly. I would be very upset to find something like that in my partner's private life, as I'm sure he would the same for me. But, then again, it depends on the mutual understanding of each relationship. I know how mine works, and so does my partner, and we work well together to respect those boundaries.