Our Wellbeing Expert Sam Sargent, shares simple tips to help reduce your levels of stress and drama - and create a life with less judgment.
Do you feed ‘stories’ by getting caught up in seemingly harmless gossip? How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot?
Do you get overwhelmed and swept away with drama or trauma? Are you aware that the energy you place on sensationalising whatever it is that’s going on makes it a far worse experience, and that there is a different possibility for life and living?
Do you find yourself arguing about what is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’? What if what you see as absolute truth is just your own interesting point-of-view? Who’s to say that your point-of-view is ‘right’ and someone else’s ‘wrong’? What’s the point anyway? Proving that you’re right and they’re wrong and inadequate, just makes them feel bad about themselves. The more time you focus on judging and criticising the choices other people make, the less time you have available to enjoy and create your own exciting life.
Do you find yourself judging and criticising loved ones? Friendships are an absolute gift. So why on earth would we choose to treat our friends and lovers with anything else but complete love and respect?
It’s very easy to blame the person nearest to you for something else that’s going on in your life. We’re all guilty of it. Well maybe all of us. I’m certain that my grandmother truly was an angel, for I never heard a negative word come out of her mouth. So much so that the wrinkles on her face were 'happy wrinkles'. A beautiful woman who inspires me to be a better version of me every day.
Back to where I was … if you do find yourself in a stressful situation where you’re likely to take it out on those around you, please remove yourself from their presence. Take a walk, a bath, three deep breaths, or whatever else it is that helps you become more calm and kind. Makes for much happier relationships and friendships.
Before you open your mouth, ask “Is it kind? Is it necessary?”
If it’s a YES to both, then go for it.
If it’s a NO to either one of the questions, then please keep quiet.
Do this for the next two weeks and see the difference in your life, and the way in which people interact with you.
One of my favourite quotes is as follows: If the words you spoke appeared on your skin, would you still be beautiful?