Your step-by-step guide to getting over a breakup.
The bad news is the first week is the hardest. The good news is the first week is the hardest! Get through this without cutting off his appendage and you’ll be just fine. They key is to let your feelings out. Give yourself time to grieve the loss of the relationship, cry, yell and ask questions. You can indulge your feelings and eat as many Tim Tams as you like during this time, but after one week it has to stop. Think of yourself as Carrie in the Sex and the City Movie. You can have your week of pain in Mexico but that’s enough.
This is when you start to heal. It’s important to look after yourself and get a supportive group of friends to help you through. Shopping, pedicures, exercise and movies are all great ways to boost your spirits. It’s also best to sever communication with your ex so you can learn to put yourself first again. Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt, authors of It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Breakup Buddy, suggest a 60-day "he-tox" to help you move on. If the need to talk to him becomes overwhelming, write him a letter. This will help you get your feelings out. Just don’t send it!
You should be bouncing back by now. If you’re still feeling low, make a lifestyle change that will have a positive impact. Book a holiday, pick up a new hobby or redecorate your bedroom. “I got a second job waitressing at my local cafe,” says Belinda, 29, NSW. “Not only did it give me something to do with my spare time but I made extra money and met new people. It was great fitness, too!” Hey, they say living well is the best revenge!
Now it’s all about being positive and ensuring you remain the beautiful, wonderful, fantastic, superb, lovely person that you are! Let go of the fear, restore your faith in love and find some words of wisdom to live by. If it helps, print them out on coloured paper and stick them all over your house. There’s nothing more inspiring than waking up to “You go girl!” in huge letters on your bedroom wall!