As winter takes hold, the darkness and cold nights can leave many of us feeling a little low. For some singles, staying in during the winter can lead to a feeling of loneliness or an
increased desire to be with a partner, while for couples, the cold can stifle spontaneity and the fun that warmer weather brings.
How can couples and singles avoid the winter blues? “The first thing that’s important to realise, is there’s a big difference between having the winter blues versus the medical condition ‘Seasonal Affective Disorder, known as SAD,” says Dr Gian Gonzaga, eHarmony.com.au relationship expert and Director of Research and Development at eHarmony Labs. “SAD is a chemical imbalance in the brain that needs medical help, whereas the winter blues is something that can be overcome by simply changing a few habits and altering your day-to-day routine.”
Dr Gian Gonzaga and eHarmony.com.au have five tips to help you keep your love life warm this winter, whether you’re single or in a relationship:
The darker nights are not a reason to cook dinner, eat and call it a night. Bundle up in warm clothes and go for a walk. It’s a great chance to clear your head of the
day’s stress or spend some time with your partner or friends, without the distraction of television and household tasks.
It might sound clichéd but taking up a hobby that involves a group is a perfect way of getting out of the house. Whether it’s something as simple as a reading group or something a bit different like bowling or even a local amateur dramatics, it will get you out of the house and meeting new people. You may just find the voice you didn’t know you had!
Why not consider taking a course? If you’re single, it’s a great way to meet new people and for couples it can be a fun activity to share together. If you don’t have time to commit to a class, why not try your hand at a new hobby? Whether it’s as simple as a book club or something a bit different like bowling, it’s another opportunity to get you out of the house and meet new people or share something with your partner.
Make a date
Don’t wait for others to invite you. Take control and plan your diary so you have evenings to look forward to. Whether it’s meeting up with friends or joining social groups like the local pub trivia team, plan your social calendar in advance and give yourself plenty to look forward to.
Are a favourite band playing nearby but your friends just aren’t interested in attending? If you’re single, try going alone. You don’t usually talk during a concert anyway and you’re out enjoying the music you love. Besides, there might be someone else there who is single with the same in mind. If you can’t bear the thought of heading out in the cold, put on some loud, foot-tapping (or guitar-smashing) favourites, crank up the stereo, and dance as if no one's watching. Music can impact on mood, and the exercise is a great blues-buster.