Jacqueline Hellyer

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I am turning 36 in 2 months and have had 5 children, aged from 18-1 yrs old. I have completely lost all libido. I am eating way too mush sugar(2 ltrs ice cream in 1 sitting). I have lost quite a bit of weight but have the flabby skin left. My husband has cheated due to not getting sex and I am at my wits end with this. I have no Idea what to do. If you can please give me any advice or even what steps to take to find help, I'm eternally grateful. Sincerely,
Numb Mum

Answered Wednesday 26 October 2011

Firstly, cut down on the sugar. That much will really screw with your system. You're probably craving it because you're so tired, but it actually makes you more tired which causes you to crave more, a vicious circle. You need to eat food that breaks down in your body slowly, giving you a slow, even energy course (unlike sugar, which gives you a sudden 'hit' then leaves you feeling more depleted than before). A dietitian or naturopath will be able to help you change your diet to a more healthy and more supportive one for you. To get your libido back, you need to do what it takes to get you at least a little bit interested. That could be a nice hot bath after the kids have gone to bed, or a foot rub and a chat with your husband, maybe a cup of tea on the back verandah, just chilling out, with or without him. You need to work up to sex, start getting yourself warmed up, so to speak. Figure out what it is you like and let your husband know. Let him help you get in the mood. There are some useful (and cheap) resources on my website, videos and pocketbooks that might help. I think if you get your diet sorted, and give yourself some chill-out time, you'll find yourself more interested and responsive.

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