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Hi im 49yrs old and my boyfriend is 46yrs old we have been together for 3yrs we had alot of sex and fun but now he isnt interested is it cause of wat i look like or wat i dont know he used to smoke weed then went of it he said thats why but he gets on benaughty.com i hate it i dont know wat to do can u please help as i love to make love with him but dont know wat to say to him or why r u on benaughty,com i just dont know wat to say please help me as im ready to give up

Answered Tuesday 2 August 2011

Hi Lyn, he sounds pretty depressed. Long term users of weed usually are when they come off it. It's simply easier for him to sit at a computer and feel something, than to deal with a real-lif person. Try not to take it personally, and try not to get angry with him. I'd suggest the two of you set aside time to be sensual with each other. Lie him on the bed and play music while touching and stroking his whole body. Help to reconnect with his body and start feeling again. Over time he may lose interest in the on-line side of things as his reality becomes more satisfying.

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