Jacqueline Hellyer

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I have always had a low low low labido. To the point I could do without sex. My husband has a very high labido and wants sex every night he's home, usually 3-4 nights a week. What do I do to increase my labido. It's a major arguing point for us. Please help.

Answered Wednesday 26 October 2011

There's always a higher-desire-partner and there's always a lower-desire-partner. In every single relationship. It's an issue that every single couple has to deal with. The higher desire partner (your husband) doesn't have to have sex every time he wants it, and the lower desire partner (you) can do things to raise your desire. Most men who are having decent sex with their partner on a regular basis, don't need to have it all the time. And if you are having quality sex that you enjoy, then you'll be more to it. In the meantime, figure out what gets you in the mood, what makes you think of your husband and go 'mmm'. Whatever that is, let him know. Most women need time to chill, romantic or sensual time with their partner, a lovely environment. All those sorts of things get a woman in the mood. Usually it's something you need to work on, create the environment that turns you on.

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