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My husband of 25yrs has put profile's on 3 different affair dating sites seeking girls for sex etc ,i just dont understand why he wont give me a answer why,we have busy lifes both working full time and a 4 yr old grandson who we have sole custory of.I alwAys wanting to make love but not him and then to find out he wants sex from other women threw me for a loop.

Answered Wednesday 26 October 2011

You have my sympathies, that would be a hard thing to discover. It's possible he doesn't know himself why he's doing it. Perhaps he's a bit bored with life and finding an easy thrill. It's probably less about you and more about him and how he's feeling in life. One approach might be to ask how he's feeling about life, and discuss what the two of you could do to make it more interesting and enjoyable. If you both work full-time and look after a four year old, there's probably not a lot of free time and relaxation for the two of you. See his behaviour as a symptom of something and see if you can help him figure our what it is and what he needs in life. It that's too hard a conversation for you to have, then I recommend you see a sympathetic counsellor or relationship coach.

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